“Tis the Season”

For many, December can be “the most beautiful time of the year.” For others, it may feel the most stressful. For those who overextend their commitments and budgets, this time of year can evoke feelings of regret, worry and exhaustion. For those who have lost loved ones, or who are far from their families, there may be feelings of sadness and loneliness. For those who don’t celebrate their traditions in December, there can be feelings of “not fitting in.” When everyone else seems to be having so much fun, one’s negative emotions may feel all the more profound.

If you are feeling more dread than elation at this time of year, know that you are not alone. A 2001 British survey found that 45% of respondents felt depressed around the holidays.

If you are starting to feel that way, then fight the urge to isolate and find someone to talk to about your feelings. Give yourself permission to say “no” if you are feeling overwhelmed with commitments. Try to spend what you have, not what you don’t have. Consider the AA tradition that urges you to HALT before you begin to feel too Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, leaving you vulnerable to negative feelings or overindulgence. Perhaps, create your own tradition for this time of year.

Thank You

As the year comes to a close, I would like to thank clients for sharing your stories and unique selves. It has been my good fortune to accompany you on this part of your journey. I would like to thank my colleagues for the ongoing support, referrals and knowledge you have shared. Thanks to my family and friends for your love and care.

For those who responded to my request to send in stories of “doing it now,” thank you for sharing. Garages were emptied, scrapbooks completed, books read and desks organized.

Congratulations all.

As we look back over the last year and plan for the next, let’s remember all the goals we have reached, insights we have gained, laughter we have shared and the happiness we have brought others and let’s hope for more of the same next year.

I wish all of you the best of December and a happy and healthy new year.

Barbara Fish, M.Ed.
Personal and Career Counsellor
416 498-1352
bfish@careeractive.com
www.careeractive.com
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